The Unforgettable Fear
Laugh at me, make fum of me, bring me down... This is what an unforgettable trauma feels like.
Looking at it, smelling it, feeling it, even thinking about going through it makes me really feel sick physically. This is also one of my fears that had me having sleepless nights and terrifying panic attacks. Feels like I'm in a state where I need to choose: "face death or face suffering"
Dentophobia (basically for me: fear of the painful dental procedure) and Agoraphobia (fear of being in an inescapable situation) are one of my biggest fears in life, due to my post traumatic experiences that change my perspective of life. I really even don't know how I could solve all of these problems without facing the "pain" again.
In case of my fear of dental extraction, even distractions, trying to be calm, hand signals, or music can't help me at all. I can't even find a perfect dentist or a great solution for dental care that I need (having my two broken molars removed) And I always have that fear of when I just let my teeth rot, I would die.
I have a lot of times being in tears about this problem. I don't want to face another traumatic experiences in life, and this fear hinders my daily life and can't focus on what I am doing. I really wish that if only there are a lot of absolutely painless solutions for a great amount of money, I won't hesitate to try one instead of having just two choices.
I've been through tougher times since my childhood, and most of them are my negative experiences, and I only have a few enjoyable childhood years.
Being scared and beaten by family, being threathened by other people, experienced bullying, and painful surgeries. I've even experienced losing a loved one and it's one of my painful experiences in life. Like, I can't even look at her in the coffin without breaking my heart in pain. Seeing her being buried in her tomb makes it more painful. I wanna be fearless, but I am buried in fears instead. T_T
I really don't know what to do. I don't even know if I just choose to let it rot instead and just accept my fate that I could die because of this. It's really hard and terrifying that the fear grew up bigger on me. I really just wish I could live a happy life instead of more traumas.
~ JLB 2020
Looking at it, smelling it, feeling it, even thinking about going through it makes me really feel sick physically. This is also one of my fears that had me having sleepless nights and terrifying panic attacks. Feels like I'm in a state where I need to choose: "face death or face suffering"
Dentophobia (basically for me: fear of the painful dental procedure) and Agoraphobia (fear of being in an inescapable situation) are one of my biggest fears in life, due to my post traumatic experiences that change my perspective of life. I really even don't know how I could solve all of these problems without facing the "pain" again.
In case of my fear of dental extraction, even distractions, trying to be calm, hand signals, or music can't help me at all. I can't even find a perfect dentist or a great solution for dental care that I need (having my two broken molars removed) And I always have that fear of when I just let my teeth rot, I would die.
I have a lot of times being in tears about this problem. I don't want to face another traumatic experiences in life, and this fear hinders my daily life and can't focus on what I am doing. I really wish that if only there are a lot of absolutely painless solutions for a great amount of money, I won't hesitate to try one instead of having just two choices.
I've been through tougher times since my childhood, and most of them are my negative experiences, and I only have a few enjoyable childhood years.
Being scared and beaten by family, being threathened by other people, experienced bullying, and painful surgeries. I've even experienced losing a loved one and it's one of my painful experiences in life. Like, I can't even look at her in the coffin without breaking my heart in pain. Seeing her being buried in her tomb makes it more painful. I wanna be fearless, but I am buried in fears instead. T_T
I really don't know what to do. I don't even know if I just choose to let it rot instead and just accept my fate that I could die because of this. It's really hard and terrifying that the fear grew up bigger on me. I really just wish I could live a happy life instead of more traumas.
~ JLB 2020
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i totally get your fear. i take it seriously. its nothing to laugh about. but since birds technically dont have teeth... this picture confused me quite a lot, like... what are they even doing?
It's a very nice drawing, and I get your fears, but what are they doing exactly to the bird?? They don't have teeth?
Guys, the lack of teeth in real life birds isn’t important and isn’t the point.
Agreed. The picture is a metaphor for the actual pain, trauma, and fear it represents. Forever ingrained into a fragile soul that hardly got a moment to be able to come to terms with his griefs after they happened.
On top of it all, the image really paints the picture and makes my own real world teeth hurt in present time.
On top of it all, the image really paints the picture and makes my own real world teeth hurt in present time.
Nobody should have to go through what Jay went/is going through.
It’s sadder hearing how he still isn’t finding happiness in his life.
God, I wanna do more for him then simple comfort talk and virtual hugs. He deserves it.
It’s sadder hearing how he still isn’t finding happiness in his life.
God, I wanna do more for him then simple comfort talk and virtual hugs. He deserves it.
Your writing is just as powerful as the image. I feel it. I really do.
As someone with PTSD and agoraphobia myself, the world has been a terrible place lately. It can feel like an endless spiral, caught in the "I have to get away, I can't get away!" loop.
I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
I wish I had solutions. The most I've ever come up with are medications, and their uses are limited.
I don't know where you're from, but I know here in the us a lot of dentists offer medicated procedures. (When I had my last wisdom tooth removed, I paid 2x the cost of the procedure just to be put under for it.) I think that would be the best bet to get through it.
I'll send you any strength I can spare <3
As someone with PTSD and agoraphobia myself, the world has been a terrible place lately. It can feel like an endless spiral, caught in the "I have to get away, I can't get away!" loop.
I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
I wish I had solutions. The most I've ever come up with are medications, and their uses are limited.
I don't know where you're from, but I know here in the us a lot of dentists offer medicated procedures. (When I had my last wisdom tooth removed, I paid 2x the cost of the procedure just to be put under for it.) I think that would be the best bet to get through it.
I'll send you any strength I can spare <3
Same, it's really hard to face it. It's like facing your own death sentence, which is really scary since I fear death/dying.
And about being put under, there are practices here that does that but they are very rare, and they cost much, like 300-500$ per session, plus I'm not sure if this can really help me to have the treatment I needed, or that could cause my death in a moment.
I really wish I could have a lot of money, or a lot of choices on how I could face this. Sometimes I always blame my experiences and myself because of being a weak as fudge person.
And about being put under, there are practices here that does that but they are very rare, and they cost much, like 300-500$ per session, plus I'm not sure if this can really help me to have the treatment I needed, or that could cause my death in a moment.
I really wish I could have a lot of money, or a lot of choices on how I could face this. Sometimes I always blame my experiences and myself because of being a weak as fudge person.
Jeez, like actually kill you cause your death in a moment?
P.s., you’re stronger than you think, you’ve just had a lot more to deal with than most people.
P.s., you’re stronger than you think, you’ve just had a lot more to deal with than most people.
I wouldn't think of it as weakness. You've experienced a trauma in the past and your mind takes action to prevent that trauma from happening again. It's learned from an experience and acts accordingly. PTSD is basically that "oh no, it's happening again!" feeling. Even brushing against it is like a raw nerve. The suggestion that it will happen again triggers steps to avoid it.
My therapist has suggested that we "live in the present and not the past" in such times, and tell ourselves that we're wrong.
To which I laughed and called her naïve. At its base, though.. she has a point.
You're not weak for having these conditions, quite the contrary, you've hardened your defenses to prevent it from happening again. The problem is that these defenses make it hard for certain tasks to take place.
I have medication that helps in situations like this, in the right moment it can make me chill, but take too much and I'm groggy for days. (Benzos in my case, but there may be something that works better.) I'd certainly recommend talking to not just the dentist about this issue, but a GP or even a psychiatrist as well to see what they can do to help medication wise to stave it off so that you can get through the procedure and other trauma related events. I know that's so much easier said than done, especially in the current climate, but my benzos have saved me from a number of tear filled, muscle cramping, wall clinging moments in the past year, even if I do sleep like 14 hours the next day.
My therapist has suggested that we "live in the present and not the past" in such times, and tell ourselves that we're wrong.
To which I laughed and called her naïve. At its base, though.. she has a point.
You're not weak for having these conditions, quite the contrary, you've hardened your defenses to prevent it from happening again. The problem is that these defenses make it hard for certain tasks to take place.
I have medication that helps in situations like this, in the right moment it can make me chill, but take too much and I'm groggy for days. (Benzos in my case, but there may be something that works better.) I'd certainly recommend talking to not just the dentist about this issue, but a GP or even a psychiatrist as well to see what they can do to help medication wise to stave it off so that you can get through the procedure and other trauma related events. I know that's so much easier said than done, especially in the current climate, but my benzos have saved me from a number of tear filled, muscle cramping, wall clinging moments in the past year, even if I do sleep like 14 hours the next day.
Yeah, I agree on how it feels like. It's really hard to face it if you just had a terrifying experiences with it.
I really wish I could find a therapist, a GP, or a right dentist who can understand my severe anxiety about these problems. I even can't afford them.
I really wish I could find a therapist, a GP, or a right dentist who can understand my severe anxiety about these problems. I even can't afford them.
This is one of the fears I am talking about. It's really hard to face it myself. Even convincing myself, or even praying doesn't work.
It feels like I need a more professional help that only rich people can afford, and that doesn't include me and my family.
It feels like I need a more professional help that only rich people can afford, and that doesn't include me and my family.
*cuddles back*
Wish there could be a really painless solution for my problem. Anesthesia isn't enough to make me going.
Wish there could be a really painless solution for my problem. Anesthesia isn't enough to make me going.
I really wish it can be an option for me, but only rare clinics can practice that, plus it costs much like 300-500$ per session, and also I don't know how my body react on it, and lastly most dentists here don't care about fear and phobias.
In my case, I'm always helpless about these problems, making me just cry for nights, and just accept my dark fate, death by broken teeth and intense fear.
In my case, I'm always helpless about these problems, making me just cry for nights, and just accept my dark fate, death by broken teeth and intense fear.
Wishing there could be a really painless solution for this problem.
they usally use numbing shots on me when I go to the dentist. they can also use something that makes you fall asleep but that's expensive to use
I have two wisdom teeth on my bottom jaw that have needed pulled for like five years. It's not the pain that scares me. It's being awake to hear it happening that makes my skin crawl.
I still remember that experience, I really felt every single thing, even I just got a single shot. Cause they rushed it, they held me up so I can't move.
I really don't know how to face this again.
I really don't know how to face this again.
Yeah, gotta have it done after next week, and I am afraid, I do hope I'm at least asleep when it happens as this is what would make me more comfortable with it.
I don't know any soul that think dentist very cool. If I know I maybe kill her. I fear a lot dentist, mainly when I hear anesteshia.
Same here. What's worse is jut being laughed at me and being told "be a man" because it's really hard.
Do they say the same? "Be a man"? I thought it was comment common in Brazil.
I am grateful that I don't have problems with teeth. But who has I try to imagine how they deal with all that. It hurts a lot. Mouth is very sensitive.
I am grateful that I don't have problems with teeth. But who has I try to imagine how they deal with all that. It hurts a lot. Mouth is very sensitive.
I agree.
But now I wish there could be a very painless solution for this kind of problem so this problem would end
But now I wish there could be a very painless solution for this kind of problem so this problem would end
Yeah. But I wonder how it would work on my body, how much it cost and when I could have it. I wanna prove that it's safe for me as well.
I have no idea. And by what you say, you seem to be the first to prove it.
Ahhh, nitrous oxide.
Sadly, nitrous oxide is not available and is illegal to be used by dental clinics.
Sadly, nitrous oxide is not available and is illegal to be used by dental clinics.
pretty powerful drawing and on my personal experience this year, getting a tooth pulled by the right dentist isn't that bad at all if it's just near that way. however depending how bad a tooth is in needing a filling well that can be a "wonderful" experience. had one close to a root canal in how far they had to fill and you can feel them drill that one even with the novacane, not that fun with the pain you do feel. i did manage to get through it though.
you have to look at it this way is sometimes you have to deal with some sort of pain to get better. in this case if they have to fill or pull teeth in order to move forward to better yourself you have to do it. it's scary at first in the case of a filling, seriously getting a tooth pulled is pretty damn quick in most cases it actually kinda tickled with the novacane. the only part that you have to do after is baby your mouth a bit with what foods you eat, etc. all in all it's not too hard, but again your mind has to be strong enough to go through it. it'll be ok if you do~
you have to look at it this way is sometimes you have to deal with some sort of pain to get better. in this case if they have to fill or pull teeth in order to move forward to better yourself you have to do it. it's scary at first in the case of a filling, seriously getting a tooth pulled is pretty damn quick in most cases it actually kinda tickled with the novacane. the only part that you have to do after is baby your mouth a bit with what foods you eat, etc. all in all it's not too hard, but again your mind has to be strong enough to go through it. it'll be ok if you do~
I might be strong in other things, but for these, especially this, because of the experiences I've been through, it's really hard to face it again.
Even tho trying to be brave still doesn't work. Even thinking about going there makes me feel physically sick, having lump in the throat, nervousness like heck, and it feels like facing my own death.
Even tho trying to be brave still doesn't work. Even thinking about going there makes me feel physically sick, having lump in the throat, nervousness like heck, and it feels like facing my own death.
which is why you need to confront it. if you have a good dentist there isn't anything to worry about. if you're not allergic to the shot they give you for the pain it'll go by quick as you won't even feel them take a tooth out. then again i'm not afraid of it and i've watched doctors shove needles in my arms for blood donations before and for that you just feel the first prick of the needle and after that it's fine just the discomfort of it being there. they're there to help you not hurt you and i think that's one thing you need to think of. the whole point of their business is to treat you, they aren't trying to kill you or put you more pain than you already are.
it's actually far worse on your health to wait too. took me three months to get my tooth pulled then another 6 to get fillings. i had enough things to keep my mouth from getting worse but it's not fun to be sick for a long while. i had to get 5 fillings after the tooth i had pulled back in january. due to covid i had to wait until approximately the end of summer to get it done. i feel greatly better than i did at the start of the year. just got stress from other stuff for now~
it's actually far worse on your health to wait too. took me three months to get my tooth pulled then another 6 to get fillings. i had enough things to keep my mouth from getting worse but it's not fun to be sick for a long while. i had to get 5 fillings after the tooth i had pulled back in january. due to covid i had to wait until approximately the end of summer to get it done. i feel greatly better than i did at the start of the year. just got stress from other stuff for now~
Wish I could be as brave as you, even tho I've experienced having needles all of over my body as well. I've been through blood tests too, but it was never a very bad situation for myself.
I still look at tooth extraction and my forced circumcision as the worst things I've ever experienced, so it's really hard to get back into another painful surgeries again.
It's really hard to face it. I wish I could sleep on it and when I wake up, it's all over.
I still look at tooth extraction and my forced circumcision as the worst things I've ever experienced, so it's really hard to get back into another painful surgeries again.
It's really hard to face it. I wish I could sleep on it and when I wake up, it's all over.
I don't think I'd be brave or ever go through a circumcision tbh. Compared to that you don't see them or even feel pain in tooth removal at all with the novacane. When they give you that shot you feel like a poke of a needle for a second and then slowly you start to go numb on whatever side they gave it to you on. All you got to do is close your eyes and listen to them whatever they ask in either opening your mouth to a degree or biting down on something like a gauze pad. teeth aren't the same as that and it's a lot easier.
That's the same way I feel when you say about yourself not being brave or ever go through a circumcision. It always makes me really anxious.
And for me, closing my eyes is still no use if I still can feel the needle and the blades even just pressure.
And for me, closing my eyes is still no use if I still can feel the needle and the blades even just pressure.
possibly but when you're numb you'll barely feel it at all for teeth and you're a bit more brave than you think for doing an image this well to show your emotion on the subject. you depicted that so well though i highly doubt the tools would be that dirty and what not to work on you. for the sake of the point of view it gets the feelings across on it, but yeah you wouldn't have to worry on that.
I need more than a hug in my condition tbh
you know, I sympathies, early childhood, I underwent a lot of dental work, some of which I still remember vividly as though it was just yesterday. I remember when they filed all 4 of my canine teeth. the pain, the fear, was so great, my salivary glands were literally shooting saliva out of my mouth in response to the overwhelming fear and pain. the anesthetics hardly did anything for me, and it felt like an eternity.
most recently, I had to get 4 molars removed, because I was experiencing a fireball of pain due to my Wisdom teeth boring holes into my nasal canal, and they were also encroaching on the molars next to them, so they too had to be removed in order to remove the wisdom teeth. I had to endure the pain all weekend long, and I thank God for the existence of Ibuprofen and Tylenol...
I also had my fair share of familial troubles, so much so, that I felt compelled to write journal entries about them.
most recently, I had to get 4 molars removed, because I was experiencing a fireball of pain due to my Wisdom teeth boring holes into my nasal canal, and they were also encroaching on the molars next to them, so they too had to be removed in order to remove the wisdom teeth. I had to endure the pain all weekend long, and I thank God for the existence of Ibuprofen and Tylenol...
I also had my fair share of familial troubles, so much so, that I felt compelled to write journal entries about them.
I really feel that. My experience might be different, but it shares the same detail as yours.
But now your wisdom teeth removed, how was the procedure? I know that post extraction is painful for weeks, but how you've endured or how you make yourself back in the dental chair?
But now your wisdom teeth removed, how was the procedure? I know that post extraction is painful for weeks, but how you've endured or how you make yourself back in the dental chair?
well, the worst part was having to endure the pain all weekend long before i could be seen by appointment. I had to take like 1,000 MG's of Ibuprofen like twice daily just to make it through the day. thankfully, the melatonin at night would keep the pain at bey, but come morning, when i regain consciousness, radiating pain once more..
honestly, the surgery was the best moment, I was put under for 40 minutes and was completely painless. woke up feeling conscious, but slurring my speech like a drunk. Maybe an hour or two later, the pain returned, but definitely not with the same intensity as prior to the surgery, I could actually tolerate it without pain killers.
over time, eventually the pain subsided (maybe lasted a week or two). I still have inflammation flare ups from time to time, but it's more minor discomfort than anything else, no real pain to speak of, which i'm very glad of.
honestly, the surgery was the best moment, I was put under for 40 minutes and was completely painless. woke up feeling conscious, but slurring my speech like a drunk. Maybe an hour or two later, the pain returned, but definitely not with the same intensity as prior to the surgery, I could actually tolerate it without pain killers.
over time, eventually the pain subsided (maybe lasted a week or two). I still have inflammation flare ups from time to time, but it's more minor discomfort than anything else, no real pain to speak of, which i'm very glad of.
That's really nice that you got a really painless solution for that. If only I can afford that kind of treatment. Also, I'm not so sure if that could help me cause I don't know how sedation works in my body.
believe me, I'm a hard person to knock out, I have to have melatonin to get decent sleep due to so much hard stress and college i had in the past that screwed my body clock really badly, I didn't think it would put me out like it did, but it was far more effective than I anticipated. before i knew it, i was out cold, and woke up with the procedure already done.
I'm not sure what the name of the chemical that was injected into me was called unfortunately.
unless you're talking about what treatment i received in college?
unless you're talking about what treatment i received in college?
yea, unfortunately I have no idea, I didn't think to ask at the time, all i cared about with such intense pain was to simply get rid of it, i didn't care how, I was just happy to be done with it, after all, I've never had surgery of any kind before.
That's really good to hear that you got your painless solution after the trauma you've got from your past experience.
I wonder where, when, and how I could get one. And I wanna prove that it's safe for me.
I wonder where, when, and how I could get one. And I wanna prove that it's safe for me.
well, I imagine most dentists are able to perform this procedure, sure, it was expensive (like $500 per tooth + the doctor's visit fee) but in the end, it was worth the price tag.
I suspect that it should be fine for you too, I mean, the dentists will ask you about your allergies, health conditions and such, so i don't think it's something you should be this worried about.
I've never heard of dentist surgery horror stories from being put under, so I really think you'll be fine.
I suspect that it should be fine for you too, I mean, the dentists will ask you about your allergies, health conditions and such, so i don't think it's something you should be this worried about.
I've never heard of dentist surgery horror stories from being put under, so I really think you'll be fine.
For all I know I do have allergic reactions to crustacean and other seafood.
And I really hope so for that.
And I really hope so for that.
I think my best advice, have a little faith, and go for it. It's just a Dentist, completely disinterested party that has no ill will towards you.
Maybe this maybe the hope and care that I need. I just need to earn for it.
does your dentist not provide financing? or your healthcare provider offer help with dental stuff?
I don't a dentist yet, and nope, they don't have stuff like that
that sucks bro, well, I wish you the best man, do what you gotta do to take care of yourself. remember, health comes first.
A hug. A hug is what you need, because you don't deserve all the awful shit that you've gone through
I know, and I even don't know how to solve this problem without dealing with painful surgeries again?
*hugs*
And I really wish there could be a more painless solution for it.
And I really wish there could be a more painless solution for it.
Yeah a year ago I went to the dentist, well, to a university where there was a dentist in practice, It was good that I just had just a few dots on my teeth
Nothing like a bit of Dental Duration to liven things up.
I completely understand this fear. I'm lucky I don't have teeth anymore. Out of desperation because my insurance was about to run out, I finally caved in like two years ago and had all my teeth removed and replaced with dentures. They were all broken and rotted, except for five in the front bottom jaw. The dentist wasn't a gentle person and mocked and berated me through the whole procedure, but surprisingly once it was done I felt nothing but relief. No pain, no lingering discomfort, my gums weren't even that sore while they were healing.
Obviously, I know I can't say anything to conquer your phobia, but I hope maybe my similar experience could be some sort of comfort for you.
Also, I know this probably isn't helpful at all, but it is extremely unlikely you will die from broken teeth. Like I said, all of my teeth were irreparably broken for several years before I took that step; eventually they just stopped hurting. (I'm not saying you "should" do that, but that it probably won't be as bad as the dentist would intentionally scare you into believing.)
Obviously, I know I can't say anything to conquer your phobia, but I hope maybe my similar experience could be some sort of comfort for you.
Also, I know this probably isn't helpful at all, but it is extremely unlikely you will die from broken teeth. Like I said, all of my teeth were irreparably broken for several years before I took that step; eventually they just stopped hurting. (I'm not saying you "should" do that, but that it probably won't be as bad as the dentist would intentionally scare you into believing.)
Same for me. i have two broken teeth, one was broke last 2012 and one last 2015. My 2012 one is already dead and had no feelings at all except having food at the hole (can be removed by gargling) and my 2015 one has a polyp at the center that hurts when touching. I am having eating difficulty for years and I am enduring it because I don't want to go to dentists at all due to my traumatic experiences.
I really want to have them removed, but I don't know how. I'm so terrified at tooth extractions again and I don't want to face it. If only there's a way. A painless solution ( local anesthesia isn't enough to have me convinced)
I'm not even a rich guy to afford stuff.
I really want to have them removed, but I don't know how. I'm so terrified at tooth extractions again and I don't want to face it. If only there's a way. A painless solution ( local anesthesia isn't enough to have me convinced)
I'm not even a rich guy to afford stuff.
It's a horrid thing really, I have a personal fear of cannulas, they put one in my wrist once and it burst after the surgery and I was in so much pain but they just took it out and put a new one in. Medical professionals do their best but it doesn't make what they do any less terrifying, painful, uncomfortable and unnerving to think about.
I feel you. I was more terrified on having blades inside my mouth, even tho anesthesia didn't work yet.
They just held me up so I can't move so I have no choice but to scream in agony, traumatizing me in the process.
They just held me up so I can't move so I have no choice but to scream in agony, traumatizing me in the process.
I can imagine that having them prod with needles and blades while able to feel it all was terrible, I'm sorry to hear about your experience.
Yeah. I really don't know how to face it again, cause it really makes me sick even by just thinking about it.
Poor thing... I feel ya, and don't feel it right to prank ye.
Are you afraid of the dentist?
I have the same situation as on this meme https://demotywatory.pl/uploads/201.....r394pz_amp.jpg
it hurts and it starts to move the other teeth.
Nice art :).
I have the same situation as on this meme https://demotywatory.pl/uploads/201.....r394pz_amp.jpg
it hurts and it starts to move the other teeth.
Nice art :).
Yeah. I'm really afraid of them. Not the dentist itself but the fear of the painful procedure. I've been into a painful experience before that dentists pulled out my teeth even tho anesthesia doesn't work yet. They just held me up so I can't move and i don't have a choice but to scream in pain.
Also, I also have wisdom teeth now. One is erupted and I can also use it for chewing. The others haven't, and I'm scared that they are maybe impacted
Also, I also have wisdom teeth now. One is erupted and I can also use it for chewing. The others haven't, and I'm scared that they are maybe impacted
Laugh at you!? Are you kidding, I went through the same shit when I was younger, I know exactly how you feel!
Gah, I wanna give you a hug, you beautiful bird. ;w;
Gah, I wanna give you a hug, you beautiful bird. ;w;
*hugs you tight*
Yeah. For others, this kind of thing, such as tooth extraction, are normal and when one man do it means they are really strong or dominant.
I'm not like that. I'm a man who fear a lot of things due to experiences.My surgeries such as tooth extraction and forced circumcision have really worst experiences for me, since both are very traumatic. Holding me down if local anesthesia doesn't work, so I don't have a choice ro face pain and scream. My forced circumcision is not different, but doctors making fun of me while I'm like bolted down even my neck. And if I never been circumcised, society, even my own family, look down at me telling me that I'm weak and gay as heck.
I grew up as a man with a lot of fears and phobias. And I don't even mnow how I could get rid of my two broken teeth I kept for years just aavoiding dentists, even enduring the aches. Now, these teeth are dead and I'm just having an eating difficulty. I really can't see or even think about myself siiting in the dental chair having blades inside my mouth again. It's really hard to experience. If only there's a solution for this problem so I can move on, but there's no any here. Some dentists I've just asked this year don't even care about dental phobias.
Yeah. For others, this kind of thing, such as tooth extraction, are normal and when one man do it means they are really strong or dominant.
I'm not like that. I'm a man who fear a lot of things due to experiences.My surgeries such as tooth extraction and forced circumcision have really worst experiences for me, since both are very traumatic. Holding me down if local anesthesia doesn't work, so I don't have a choice ro face pain and scream. My forced circumcision is not different, but doctors making fun of me while I'm like bolted down even my neck. And if I never been circumcised, society, even my own family, look down at me telling me that I'm weak and gay as heck.
I grew up as a man with a lot of fears and phobias. And I don't even mnow how I could get rid of my two broken teeth I kept for years just aavoiding dentists, even enduring the aches. Now, these teeth are dead and I'm just having an eating difficulty. I really can't see or even think about myself siiting in the dental chair having blades inside my mouth again. It's really hard to experience. If only there's a solution for this problem so I can move on, but there's no any here. Some dentists I've just asked this year don't even care about dental phobias.
kinda weird since I was the exact opposite. I always loved going to the dentist as a kid ^^;
You might had a great experience with them.
I never had good ones.
I never had good ones.
I really feel you Jay, and I'm sorry to hear everyone you've run into in the dental industry have been so callous.
I don't fear the dentist persay, but I suffer badly from needle phobia, near to the point of preferring death over a needle. I have bluntly stated to all my previous dentists (since I was old enough to make them listen, anyway) that I didn't care what they were doing in my mouth--if they brought that damned Novocaine needle anywhere near me, I would find a way to bend it and possibly them in half. (fortunately have not had to have teeth pulled or anything yet--if I ever do, I will work as long as it takes to save money and pay for a sedation dentist, extra tooth decay be damned.)
It's the same way with any other needle, I haven't been vaccinated or had any blood tests since I was 16, and never will again unless I am either A: unconscious, or B: have a 100% chance of death without.
I know all too well how the fear of death and that of a phobia overlap to cause anxiety, having thought about it a lot given that I'm never going to stay up to date on tetanus vaccines or anything of that nature. I do worry about death, but a lot of times the thought of a needle scares me more...
I don't fear the dentist persay, but I suffer badly from needle phobia, near to the point of preferring death over a needle. I have bluntly stated to all my previous dentists (since I was old enough to make them listen, anyway) that I didn't care what they were doing in my mouth--if they brought that damned Novocaine needle anywhere near me, I would find a way to bend it and possibly them in half. (fortunately have not had to have teeth pulled or anything yet--if I ever do, I will work as long as it takes to save money and pay for a sedation dentist, extra tooth decay be damned.)
It's the same way with any other needle, I haven't been vaccinated or had any blood tests since I was 16, and never will again unless I am either A: unconscious, or B: have a 100% chance of death without.
I know all too well how the fear of death and that of a phobia overlap to cause anxiety, having thought about it a lot given that I'm never going to stay up to date on tetanus vaccines or anything of that nature. I do worry about death, but a lot of times the thought of a needle scares me more...
That's phobia. And it's irrational.
There's even people that are looking fearless at other things but too scared for simple things.
I still remember being a kid who's always sick all the time, and hospital is almost my second home... Every single time I need to deal with painful or sour medicines, and of course, painful injections.
There's even a time that I need to deal with them all the time spending a week inside a hospital, and it lifts up my feeling when finally I need to leave that cursed place and be at home again. Same thing when I need to deal with my aching tooth in my first grader years. Maybe because I never win a Math or Science competition, my parents took me to the dentist without saying to me, and that phobia began as I felt every singe thing even tho there's a shot of that anesthesia. They just hold me so I can't escape and deal with it while screaming by feeling the slice and the pulling.
After that I oath myself to not visit any dentist for all of my life. But tho everytime my tooth aches, my parents even screaming at me that if I never go to the dentist for tooth pulling, I will suffer their wrath.
Not just that, even my circumcision is a disaster for me, which made me more phobic about doctors and such.
Now, I really feel that point of preferring death over a "simple thing", but there's inside of me that I even fear of death as well, developing into an irrational fear.
And now, all of these fears developed more and more, affecting my daily life as an adult and now I am suffering over threats of physical feelings and things, even fearing people, the concept of Heaven and Earth, God and almost everything.
Telling myself that I need someone to rewrite my brain, but I don't even have a money for that. Even my parents and my other family can't help me, they even laughing at me because of having fears over things.
There's even people that are looking fearless at other things but too scared for simple things.
I still remember being a kid who's always sick all the time, and hospital is almost my second home... Every single time I need to deal with painful or sour medicines, and of course, painful injections.
There's even a time that I need to deal with them all the time spending a week inside a hospital, and it lifts up my feeling when finally I need to leave that cursed place and be at home again. Same thing when I need to deal with my aching tooth in my first grader years. Maybe because I never win a Math or Science competition, my parents took me to the dentist without saying to me, and that phobia began as I felt every singe thing even tho there's a shot of that anesthesia. They just hold me so I can't escape and deal with it while screaming by feeling the slice and the pulling.
After that I oath myself to not visit any dentist for all of my life. But tho everytime my tooth aches, my parents even screaming at me that if I never go to the dentist for tooth pulling, I will suffer their wrath.
Not just that, even my circumcision is a disaster for me, which made me more phobic about doctors and such.
Now, I really feel that point of preferring death over a "simple thing", but there's inside of me that I even fear of death as well, developing into an irrational fear.
And now, all of these fears developed more and more, affecting my daily life as an adult and now I am suffering over threats of physical feelings and things, even fearing people, the concept of Heaven and Earth, God and almost everything.
Telling myself that I need someone to rewrite my brain, but I don't even have a money for that. Even my parents and my other family can't help me, they even laughing at me because of having fears over things.
honestly I have no fear going to a dentist, I want my damaged tooth taken away so badly... that's why I've started to brush my teeth every night for the rest of my life...
I'm sorry that you have such fear :(
I'm sorry that you have such fear :(
just by looking at your picture it really does shatters my heart, how horrible and traumatic you and that poor bird is going, I kinda want to make me cry
It's really hard...
That's how I can portray it.
I know it's a short procedure, but it's still a nightmare. A nightmare of pain.
That's how I can portray it.
I know it's a short procedure, but it's still a nightmare. A nightmare of pain.
I'm sorry you have to go through this, that you can't find things to help you calm down. I have my own issues much like this, only I've just started to address them and it's been agony. you were very eloquent and dead-on.
I hope you've made steps to being happier and healthier, but it's fine if you haven't, that happens at its own pace. I just want to thank you, you've helped me address and explain a few of my own issues. This has helped me see things just a little more clearly, thank you.
I hope you've made steps to being happier and healthier, but it's fine if you haven't, that happens at its own pace. I just want to thank you, you've helped me address and explain a few of my own issues. This has helped me see things just a little more clearly, thank you.
I really hope so, and hoping there's another way in facing this without going through the same pains like the things that I've experienced before.
Those pains made me curse and told myself not to go through the same pains again.
Those pains made me curse and told myself not to go through the same pains again.
Personally I've found myself having to relive and address a lot of my fears and memories, either from dreams or IRL situations similar to the traumas. It's extremely painful and terrifying, like panic attacks that last for hours and hours, but once I come to an understanding that these habits and fears were taught to me to survive, that I don't need them anymore, I'm slowly able to unlearn them.
That's my experience though. I've been using Marijuana to help my brain process things therapeutically, it's what's been working so far.
It's a long process. I still wish nothing but the best for you on your own journey.
That's my experience though. I've been using Marijuana to help my brain process things therapeutically, it's what's been working so far.
It's a long process. I still wish nothing but the best for you on your own journey.
Sadly I don't have anything to therapeutically calm me down, especially therapists here are expensive.
It's a struggle and a journey. I still wish the best for ya. If you got no free health care and no accessible weed, friends - only those who are deserving of your trust and won't betray it or use it for a leg up - are a very powerful and beneficial thing to have. Friends that don't get tired of listening to you dump your guts out over and over and over again until your brain can finally process it without the blinding fear.
I personally have that blind kind of terror anytime I drive - or do anything but mostly driving - and my friends have helped a lot with that.
Still though, thank you for this vent piece and sharing some of your story, it did really help me some.
I personally have that blind kind of terror anytime I drive - or do anything but mostly driving - and my friends have helped a lot with that.
Still though, thank you for this vent piece and sharing some of your story, it did really help me some.
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