Absolutely anything can be an addiction: food, sex, drugs, alcohol, cleanliness, attention, etc. We all can get hooked on something that makes us feel a certain way. The STRUGGLE you feel, as awful as it feels, is a GOOD thing, because it means you are growing, and LEARNING to handle yourself. GOOD people recognize when there may be a problem, and GOOD people try to correct the problem.
Many may argue that "vore does not hurt anyone," and for the most part, I agree with them; however, an ADDICTION is self-hurting if it does things like: waste excessive amounts of time, alters how one treats others, promotes stalker-like behavior, harms sleep schedules, or promotes neglecting important tasks.
First of all try not to think of yourself as a bad person.
This is simply self sabotage, and defeats the purpose of self improvement. You should instead look at your personal desire for improvement as a positive thing-- a step in the right direction.
Second, understand that biology is at work here. Our genetic code TELLS us to "mate" with others so that our genes can pass on. If your brain goes, "well, sex is meh, but thoughts of being EATEN certainly makes me want to talk to women~" your genes will be like, "OK, whatever, go get that girl so we can continue EXISTING!!" Really, take out "vore" and replace it with "sex", and you're facing nearly EVERY young male's sexual plight. Part of being a sensible adult is recognizing this problem, and finding a way to CONTROL it.
Third, moderation is key. Using food as example, sure food tastes great, but you do not NEED it all the time. Sex is the same way-- lots of pleasure, and a nice dopamine feeling after, but it is not NEEDED. Try looking at it as something you have the privilege of experiencing ON YOUR OWN TIME. It will always be there, should you decide to sit down and give it time, but you. do not. NEED. it. It does not control you, you control it.
Do not feel bad every time you give in to getting off to something. Dicks are ticking time bombs by nature. Once again, moderate it at your leisure. Remove it from the TOP of your mental trophy rack, and try to find other positive things to take its place. With people, try to appreciate aspects of them, and move vore far down the ladder from those aspects-- a woman will dislike a man staring at her mouth possibly just as much as a man who fixates on her breasts. Doing so will improve your relationship status with someone.
Finally, understand that it is all fantasy. I am not just saying, "it doesn't hurt anyone." I am saying, "It only seems super appealing because you IMAGINE it to be something that it ISN'T." In reality, being inside someone would smell absolutely awful, it would suffocate you, it would burn, it would be uncomfortable for both you AND the pred, etc etc.-- oh, AND you would DIE. You have placed something nonexistent in your brain akin to a food lover wishing for "the best-tasting food that NEVER fattens you up" or an alcoholic wishing for "the perfect booze that makes you forget all your worries, feel good, but never makes you puke or impairs your driving." If these things were obtainable, they would not be "fantasies" in the first place. The cold, hard truth is that we have to grow, we have to forge ourselves to understand that we CAN have good things, but we CAN'T have the absolute "best thing," not only because there is no such thing, but because our dang brains will ALWAYS aim higher.

I believe you will be able to grow and mold yourself into the person you wish to be. It will take time and hard work, but you CAN do it. Either way, you will learn, whether by your own choice, or through trial and error. Good luck in your endeavors. You are not alone in them.

Thank you Cownugget so much for taking your time to reply with such a filling and thoughtful answere. This means alot to me! I have watched your artwork many times, so must admit I am a little starstruck.

Thank you for believing in me. I try my best to be a good caring person, nothing over the top but just be a whole person. That might be one of many reasons why this secret vore-life troubles me so much. I am hiding something shameful...

It is an interesting thought that having this problem in my life confirmes that I try to improve as a person. I will try to look at it more like that. It almost makes sense.

Bioligy also has a voice in this addiction. That I think is what got me hooked in the first place. I did not choose this... To control the desire is close to impossible or maby it is impossible. Therefore I agree that moderation is key here. I have tried my best to set rules for how much time and how often I indulge vore. But when rules ar broken what good are they then? This concerns me. If rules gets broken, how do one proceed/gain control.
So far I can control the physical part of this. I do not stare at girls mouth, breast and body in general. That is not a problem. My eyes migth "slip" in a moment of weakness, but thats all. It feels so bad when someone becomes a victim that I do not find it enjoyable on any level.

What you say about the reality of being inside someone, how it would be a terrible experience. That should be a wakeup call for my body. But it just turns up the fantasy even more and start to imagine that one could control the laws of physics. "If shrinking was an option why wouldn't removing the smell, acid and the lack of air be an option? Just like the Cakeinferno-universe..." Then I am like..."hmmmm. Yes I want that...alot!!"

Again thank you so much for your thoughts! I need people like you right now, that can make me focus on the right stuff. I have lost this battle for now, but I want to rise from this one day. However...I will have this fight for as long as I live.

Sorry it took so long to respond, but we probably live i totaly different time zones. Cheers from Norway ;)

Hi, I don't know if this could somehow help you but some time ago I had a big problem with vore too. I couldn't accept how much of a freak I am and I thought that it was a bad thing (being a freak I mean): that it was absolutely wrong, and I had only myself to blame for it. And so I constantly rejected my instincts but I was never able to renounce to my kink, and this whole situation made me feel really bad. Then, gradually, the entirety of my moral code and the way I perceive the world both changed deeply: at the point that I don't feel the slightest shame anymore.
Since I discovered it, vore has always been part of my life and that's okay. And I don't feel bad at all for being a freak.
I treat this aspect of my life as a mere hobby, without being deeply hooked to it with feelings, without letting it consume me (as any other enjoyable thing in life could do as well): and it feels good.

Now, I know that your problem, even if similar, is not the same as mine. And I also understand how every person is different and can find its own unique path to balance.
But I feel like you could find this advice helpful: don't feel ashamed for your situation. You're not like doing something extremely evil that will deeply damage innocent people or stuff like that.
You've just got a problem that stands between you and a better balance in your life.
There's nothing to feel shame for, don't be cruel with yourself.

I feel sorry for your pain and hope you'll get to feel better :)

Thank you so much NoobMaster1945. I think we have a similar view on vore. I've might not got as far in the process as you have, but I hope to get there one day.
I just need to say that you're not a freak, be kind with yourself. You are a humble understanding person that reaches out to someone like me, someone that needs help... I thank you deeply for that!
As you say, to be deeply hooked on vore with feeling is the problem. Vore by it self is not the problem, it's what one does with it. I've felt better for a few weeks now, so maby I'm headed in the right direction. Even though today I had a hard fight with feelings again...sigh.... This stuff is difficult to live with. I keep falling mentaly, but I try to get up and it feels fine for a while. Then I get a hard hit and find myself down again. Everytime I lose a bit more faith...am I realy going to get truly better?...how...?
When reading your reply I get blessed with new strength. I will get up and try to find a path that could ease the pain.

I'm so glad to here your story. How you have found a way out of shame and into balance. It gives me hope.

I believe that you'll find your way out of it eventually
Sincerely wish you good luck buddy ;)

Sadly, I know this feeling all too well myself. I wish there were more I could say to ease your mind, but I haven't been able to find all the puzzle pieces music to figure out what deep root is the cause of all of it. I would say the movies I've watched growing up are the main cause of it, but it's only part of the problem.

That is true. Watching movies is only one part of it. It puzzles me how it takes over my mind some times and how I can want it so much.
The last few months have been different, not much, but something is happening. It feels less bad when I don't judge myself for wanting this. Also after I wrote everything down and posted it here, I feel less alone about it.
Have you ever spoken with someone about how you feel? If so...what did you tell them and how was the respond?

Stay strong! I think there is a way to ease the pain. I just don't know how yet. Please feel free to answere or not. I would love to hear whats on your mind, but I don't want to push you.

Sadly I haven't talked to anyone about it, heck, I'm honestly ashamed when someone irl finds out about me liking vore, to the point where I try to backpedal, as if it were more taboo than say other things, but I probably should talk it out with someone.

And thank you! Stay strong as well, my friend c:

I know how you feel. The taboo is a heavy burden of this vore fantasylife. It is so humbling to like something that isn't real. It scares me just to think about how some people would react if they found out about my vore fantasy. I have barely told anyone about this myself. Only a very few people I trust deeply knows a tiny bit of this. But they've never heard of vore and don't fully understand it. So I've never shown anyone the art, comics and animation I watch. That is still to embarrassing to do. But I do have a friend that studies psyhology and therapy who I've had a few deep conversations with. I belive this has started a healing process, but I still need to work hard to find a path to live with this.
I think you will find the right time and place to share your thoughts and the struggles you've gone through. Don't rush it... But hey, you've done it already. It's a strong thing to post a comment about something this personal. Thank you so much for that!
I think we need to be kind to ourselves and not judge how we feel. It doesn't lead to a good place to suppress these emotions. It is what it is. Be strong my friend!

Feel free to share, I will never judge!!