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I know some littles and some caretakers who just instantly connect. There are others who sorta just go round collecting up as many caretakers or littles as they can. If that works for those individuals then thats perfectly alright, from my own personal perspective though I need to feel safe with someone and know them before I can give them a title like mummy or daddy. Its a really important thing to me.
Actually all titles for me personally are important. if ive called you brother or sister or auntie or uncle at some point thats because you've managed to get into the inner sanctum of my heart and trust, and even if we dont talk anymore, you've still got that place in my soul. That's just the way it works with me, its not really a choice thing its one of those weird hard wired things in me
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I know some littles and some caretakers who just instantly connect. There are others who sorta just go round collecting up as many caretakers or littles as they can. If that works for those individuals then thats perfectly alright, from my own personal perspective though I need to feel safe with someone and know them before I can give them a title like mummy or daddy. Its a really important thing to me.
Actually all titles for me personally are important. if ive called you brother or sister or auntie or uncle at some point thats because you've managed to get into the inner sanctum of my heart and trust, and even if we dont talk anymore, you've still got that place in my soul. That's just the way it works with me, its not really a choice thing its one of those weird hard wired things in me
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Ahhh tackling deeper topics! Great job once again Sammy!
Jesus I was just checking my usual artists for new art/comic updates and this apparently just came out, glad I didn’t miss it
Star can really open up to Martin. It's nice to know she has someone so understanding. Unca Martin and Auntie Kim sound good. Wonder what Em stands for?
Alright. But I think in the Star's speech bubbles concerning Martin, "Unca" would be better than "Uncle".
Makes sense. Whenever I see the name Em I think Emily (Dorothy from Wizard of Oz logic)
Awww, this is all just so precious! Auntie and Uncle is perfect for this trial run!
man I wish I knew where you can find daddys and mommys
I want to be connected to my CG, it's more loving that way :3
I want to be connected to my CG, it's more loving that way :3
Maybe stop looking for caregivers and start looking for people you connect with. This part of our lives is just that: Part. Connect with a person, or lots of people, and when you find one you trust to understand, one who is caring as a person and who cares ABOUT you.... Then see if they will care FOR you. But there has to be something in it for them, too. Power exchange? maybe. But return the favor.... He or she cares for your baby side, let your adult side care for his or her adult side, too.... Nice back rub, foot rub after a long day, give her a bubble bath (no tub toys, but maybe a glass of wine and some candles?) or give him a night where YOU put baby to bed and let him have some grownup time with you... Which could just mean adult conversation or could mean other things not proper to be discussed around littles. ;) But it's not "where do the Mommies hang out?" or "Daddies R Us".... People are whole people. Hope that helps!
I of course would pay back the best I could but...thats the hard part, contact and finding them
Last thing you want is making a bond then telling them about that said and be called a pedo and a freak and your 'friend' goes nuclear on you, videos, texts, cops and more just because you love something different
but thanks for the nugget of wisdom, gal in a smart diaper, if I ever can help, I'll try to repay the favor
Last thing you want is making a bond then telling them about that said and be called a pedo and a freak and your 'friend' goes nuclear on you, videos, texts, cops and more just because you love something different
but thanks for the nugget of wisdom, gal in a smart diaper, if I ever can help, I'll try to repay the favor
Pay it forward = pass along something you know to someone who maybe could benefit from it. Maybe tomorrow. Maybe next year. Maybe 20 yrs from now.... Just pay it forward and I will consider myself paid in full. :)
I do the same! I got one daddy, and all the other caretakers who are my friends and want to baby me are uncle/aunt or big siblings if they are switch, some are babysitters.
But I only have one daddy, one mommy, and to be my sibling you'd have to be very close to me.
But I only have one daddy, one mommy, and to be my sibling you'd have to be very close to me.
This page is actually rather deep. I can see how both sides of this can be really harmful to the parties involved. I haven't ever had a proper caretaker until very recently, and even then the only reason I have my caretaker is because like martin says I feel a emotional and intellectual connection to them. You are always very good about tackling the more deeper and serious aspects of this community Star. Keep doing great work ^_^
as a caretaker i get what hes talkin about. Its insane how many tykes come busting down your door once the news is heard @.@ shows a more toxic side to this stuff
Awwwww to see the loving and care Martin gives to a little is just so warming ^^
It’s really hard to find your “new” family and I think some try to rush things out of desperation and pain but with enough patience I hope every little can find there ideal family
Ms. Sammy,
I love the way you're basically making this a guidebook for littles, showing how to find the elusive Mommy or Daddy or in Star's case, both. Much as I just typed in a reply, Star *met* Martin at Flare's party, but she met Kim through him. She stumbled a little in the "get to know you" part, but recovered and now she has aunt and uncle..... Which because this is a story, I suspect will progress to bigger and better things. They have had their own "downer" with their last prospective baby kapoofing on them, and not pleasantly, it seems. It also seems though, that the couple and the individual are just right for each other, in terms of being what the other needs. This is one reason that I adore the result and am awestruck by the amount of work you do for us. Thank you!
I love the way you're basically making this a guidebook for littles, showing how to find the elusive Mommy or Daddy or in Star's case, both. Much as I just typed in a reply, Star *met* Martin at Flare's party, but she met Kim through him. She stumbled a little in the "get to know you" part, but recovered and now she has aunt and uncle..... Which because this is a story, I suspect will progress to bigger and better things. They have had their own "downer" with their last prospective baby kapoofing on them, and not pleasantly, it seems. It also seems though, that the couple and the individual are just right for each other, in terms of being what the other needs. This is one reason that I adore the result and am awestruck by the amount of work you do for us. Thank you!
I remember asking my dominant what she preferred to be called, and initially she mentioned that with past littles she went by Daddy.
I didn't feel comfortable calling her Daddy personally as my relationship with my father wasn't like that.
I also told her that calling her mom, or mommy felt wrong too (not sure if that would still bother me anymore)...
But we settled for mumma :)
She's been my mumma for 5 years and I've been her bitty-bit!
I didn't feel comfortable calling her Daddy personally as my relationship with my father wasn't like that.
I also told her that calling her mom, or mommy felt wrong too (not sure if that would still bother me anymore)...
But we settled for mumma :)
She's been my mumma for 5 years and I've been her bitty-bit!
Super precious.
Well done, Star.
Auntie Kim and Uncle Martin seems a good starting point :)
Well done, Star.
Auntie Kim and Uncle Martin seems a good starting point :)
People like that online are the reason I stopped using Fetlife
That whole thing around how you are seen within relationships, what you call each other by way of titles is just so important and like you I haf to feel really connected to someone to get to that point.
Thanks for the art today. (((Hugs)))
Thanks for the art today. (((Hugs)))
These realistic depictions of cub and caregiver relationship dynamics are really great to see. They add a great element of wholesomeness to the overall story. :D
It's such a toxic mentality, I'm glad you addressed it dead on.
I'm also stuck with the idea of "Martin in a skirt, Star callin him 'Auntie Em' off to the side"
I'm also stuck with the idea of "Martin in a skirt, Star callin him 'Auntie Em' off to the side"
I'm the same way and so is my partner, we have strained relationships with our real parents so Dad is kindof a four letter word. I call him Mister n.n
I would never call any caretaker Mum or Dad because thats my bio parents and that would feeel reaaaaaly weird for me.
I never used mummy or daddy in my real childhood so they felt okay to use in this second childhood of mine, but theres been a couple of times when other littles have talked about Daddy as "hey your dad is pretty cool" and that instantly makes me bristle and wanna run a mile because he isnt my dad he's my daddy. LOL
I never used mummy or daddy in my real childhood so they felt okay to use in this second childhood of mine, but theres been a couple of times when other littles have talked about Daddy as "hey your dad is pretty cool" and that instantly makes me bristle and wanna run a mile because he isnt my dad he's my daddy. LOL
Most littles I've cared for online or rl feel that wsy by 'dad' or 'mum'. In fact my gf prefers the term 'dada' ^^
I do both sides of big and little... and it's kinda true u.u I'm kinda........ uh.......... lonely... so I tend to do what ever anyone wants from me as long as I'm getting attention c.c little needs a big, big needs a little... but yeah. You announce "I'll take care of you" *crinkly dogpile*
I like it. It rhymes. And it's easy to remember when you get the little kitten brain. XD
Martin being thorough and sensitive as always. Where can I find a man like that?
It's a complex issue, because some of those who 'collect' caretakers might be ones who have been burned before and suffering from extreme cases of fear of rejection and abandonment issues. By amassing such a large support coterie (network?) the litte protects themselves from future harm.
Yeah that works so long as the caretakers are aware thats whats going on. So yeah like Martin says, if it works for both parties then thats cool.
Though then you often get into the situation where one wants to go one step further and you have to say "No, I just don't like you in that way" and that rarely goes over well.
Very true, but as ickle sis points out, that all depends upon how connected the caretakers are to one another (and the little). Plus, like with many poly relationships, you can have primaries and secondaries and so on. It's all a carefully balanced emotional support structure. But trust and communication is key, just as it is with any other relationship.
If you're not super socially strong it's kind of hard to say it without coming across as "this person is superior to you so I like them better"
I suppose that depends upon ones own point of view. If the poly relationship takes the perspective of "this person is superior to you so I like them better" then it's probably doomed to fail as that's kind of a sucky attitude to take towards people you care about.
I don't mean you actually feeling that way.
I said "hard to say without coming across"
I said "hard to say without coming across"
I like feeling safe as well. I've always been a person who prefers a small group of very close friends I connect with to hundreds of acquaintances I only half know. The catch of course is finding such people, but when I do, I cling to them deeply and will do almost anything for them! =3
How easy is it for you to put diapers on by yourself? I still struggle with it and usually have to reapply a few times before I get them comfy.
I do something very similar to Martin. ive been in that situation online a lot.
this was a very good page I like how she opened up to him about that problem in her head and how he too was open and honest with his being relieved she didn't want to call him and Kim Daddy and Mummy yet.
Aah I wanna have this at some point. <//w//>' I dunno where to even look.. I've tried online sites but I've only been assaulted with people asking for paid services or pictures only. ;-;
I can relate to that my self Star. Your a good person and I feel everyone deserve happiness and to be in little space when they can. I like what Paul saying in this issue. He right that when being a caregiver online there will be online littles that will want them as their caregiver. I think it best as a little to get to know a caregiver and let them decide if they want you as their little or not. This way it won't upset anyone ^^
Words only have the amount of meaning you put into it, saying one often may have less meaning to ones rarely used. Love is kinda one of those words, said often it can loose its meaning but rarely it gives it this more potent meaning.
I think I feel similarly to you and Martin, while I have only dipped into such things mostly, I feel like calling someone Mommy or Daddy or any variant thereof would have to be earned. By both parties. I feel like it's a representation of trust, or something that grows out of a relationship for it to feel right.
Online Caretakers usually get slammed with littles, I feel pretty bad for them most of the time, it makes them feel like they can't be open about their role, but on the flip side it also creates a massive demand for bigs and is part of the reason littles swarm them when they come out, its an accidentally created vicious cycle. I hope some day the community can come to an equilibrium where that doesn't happen so littles and bigs can all feel comfortable being who they are without fear of being swarmed like what's discussed in the last panel.
as a Cg I can't agree with this page more thank you so much for takeing with time to not only focus on the little but the Cg side of the community
With a light hearted page, with a rather serious abdl topic you executed this page so cutely and clearly *offers the kitten a sheet of stickers for an AMAZING JOB *
i know where hes coming from... though in my case im a little and ive wound up being called daddy a lot of times. im more a big baby brother type if anything my sonas little ages range from 13 to my curent age
as someone who is sometimes a caretaker myself... that past panel hit hard.
I feel the same way about being called a Daddy, I want it to mean something and not just a title someone calls me. It should mean that we're on a level of connection strong enough where we feel comfortable calling each other stuff like that.
And I also agree with the 'collecting' of littles and mommies/daddies. I get that it works for some people but you need to talk with the other person to see if they're okay with it 1st.
And I also agree with the 'collecting' of littles and mommies/daddies. I get that it works for some people but you need to talk with the other person to see if they're okay with it 1st.
Im so glad you brought this up, I always struggled with how best to address caretakers
So long as we can hang out, i would be happy. Im too lonely and would like to meet others eventually
I want to get into being a daddy, as I'm a switch when it comes to spanking and thought it might be nice to try the full blown daddy role... and Although I hear about the issue of littles collecting daddies... no one seems interested in me, guess cuz I act too young to be taken seriously as a daddy
Is it weird if the first thing my mind chooses as a frame-of-reference for this conversation is the relationships between Drivers and Blades?
This page should serve as a universal PSA for the whole community
I'm actually really surprised and pleased to see this addressed in this comic. So many times the IRL struggles get glossed over and, if mentioned at all, it's often the struggles of those on the s-side of the slash. So hearing a bit more about the top side is nice and refreshing, as well as validating in a sense. Just ... it makes it seem more real, but still fantastical in a sense.
I agree with you, titles are a big thing for me. For my BF, I couldn't call him Daddy at first. I mean, partly because it was weird since I call my bio-dad that. But because that was too intimate. So he was Mister. And now, he's just Daddy and I'm his puppy. We worked to that, built it up as we got to know each other.
I agree with you, titles are a big thing for me. For my BF, I couldn't call him Daddy at first. I mean, partly because it was weird since I call my bio-dad that. But because that was too intimate. So he was Mister. And now, he's just Daddy and I'm his puppy. We worked to that, built it up as we got to know each other.
Also, so much intimidation as an age-play switch. Being a Big online seems intimidating. D:
Ah aunt and uncle, the neutral familial terms. All the parental connections of the mom/dad relationship but with the smooth casualness of a friend/acquaintance.
Well this was a heartwarming reminder to send love to my big. Thanks for the sweet feels. Glad you’re feeling better. <3
Well i tried to read this a few years ago but ended up having to drop it as the blackmail part ended up overwhelming me a bit. However I have recently came back and skimmed the blackmail, still got to me a bit, and I have to say this is a fantastic story. I am excited to see what comes next! (If anyone knows anything similar to this then plz let me know, I can read both :P)
I've had this exact thought so much like what do I call someone when I'm getting to know them, daddy is way too special to start with. I used to come up with silly stuff like fuzzy n things ahaha
Yes that happens alot people who say there a mummy or daddy get strangers calling them that Straight away. Especially on fetlife I try and stick to call them Mr or Miss and their name unless they have a title like doctor or their just their name name what ever their name like your daddy Squigg as I know he's first name I call him Mr and then his given name. Out of respect as mummy and daddy titles have to be earned in my view.
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