The Sharing Corner
8 years ago
Our bonds make us who we are today
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This particular journal was created to share your story. What brought you to the realization that you are polyamorous? How did you feel? Was it difficult to bring to your current partner(if you had one at the time)? Everyone's stories are different, and they all deserve to be heard if you wish to share.
i was in a relationship with the one whom at the time i thought was the love of my life. but the someone else came along and earned my affection as well. as time passed i found to be just as fond of him as i was my mate. i soon found myself falling for him too...which left me to pieces. i thought i had to choose...but how do i choose the one i love if i feel i'll be nothing without the other?
then i discovered polyamory, it basically explained to me that maybe i don't have to choose, and made me realize that i don't need to limit the amount of people i do love with that kind of affection
~Remy
The end, haha.
I first found out that i was poly not when I was dating someone, but through my friend. I've always had the ability to love a lot(of people) but I was always told that such a thing is wrong and such. Then, lo and behold, while dating someone I started to have feelings for someone else. Not like, i didn't love my partner any less, but that I started to love the other with the same intensity. Which I thought was wrong. Was I cheating? Does this make me disloyal? I asked myself this a lot of times, and pushed it aside. About a year or so ago, I was talking to my friend who is poly about relationships and he explained what polyamourous was! And I was so relieved that now only what I experienced was real, but that there was a name for it! So happy. ;w; Even if I am still sort of in the closet about it, finding communities where there are people similar to me is a wonderful thing. <3
Edit: Tried to fix a few typos.
I have little experience with relationships, because they never really last, but while soul searching some years ago, I thought of something: Would I be comfortable in a relationship with multiple people? The concept of polyamory repulsed me at first, but only because I didn't know the full meaning of it. I assumed it was just open relationships or once-a-week threesomes.
But I then learned that there is closed polyamory, with three people instead of two. Although I'd still be happy with one mate, I find the idea of a trio of people loving each other and spending time with each other and cuddling in a love group very appealing.
Closed Poly relationships are not a bad thing to do if that is what you seek. It gives a lot of room for a big attachment amongst each other to grow.
i only really explored being poly around a year ago, after i found out it was an actual thing that many people experience [and not that reality tv that demonizes poly relationships]. but i've never seen the point, even as a young thing, of having to spend your entire life with just once person when you could love more than one partner.
my bf, because we have no secrets, was fine with being in a poly relationship! it wasn't difficult telling him, though he and only a few online friends know.