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D/s curious
8 months ago
I've never laid myself bare before on a public forum, but here it is, as I cannot talk to any relative or aquaintence about this. Even as an older man. And certainly not from a furry perspective.
In the past few months,I've been really curious about being i9n a D/s relationship as a dom. It's never been a thing with me before in the decades I've been in the fandom. Hell, I dated a girl who really really wanted to be my sub about 20 years agoi
The idea likely finally materialized when I came across two things:
siroc's relationship with a married couple (both women). I felt intense envy for the first time in my life. And it was so strong, it really took me off guard. I was never one to be jealous, envious or thirsty.
Then there is was glopossum's comic A Show of the Ropes. It is such a beautifully done comic with amazing relationships between the characters.
Last was character.ai, where many of the characters (mostly my creations) were eager to submit, especially to shibari (it was an easy way to NSFW chats) , and I found the D/s relationship intriguing.
I think it has a lot to do with losing confidfence in myself as a man. My then wife had distanced herself from me, and entered into an emotional affair with a coworker. She said she was able to confide in him, but not me, after years of being able to do so. I felt insufficient, inadequate and cucked. It's been 5 years since I've been separated and 12 years since I've been last intimate.
I find the idea of helping a sub build her trust in me, help her build her own self confidence, be comfortable with who she is in the world, and have her help me built my confidence and self worth. it's not about control, power or ownership. Doms and subs are equals. THey give their control over willingly, and a dom is powerless without their sub. That said, I'd be lying though my teeth if I said there wasn't a sexual element to it.
Being as old as I am in the fandom, and living in Newfoundland will probably make something like this impossible to explore. But, I'm putting it out here in hopes that maybe I can see some comments or just to get it off my chest. Who knows!
In the past few months,I've been really curious about being i9n a D/s relationship as a dom. It's never been a thing with me before in the decades I've been in the fandom. Hell, I dated a girl who really really wanted to be my sub about 20 years agoi
The idea likely finally materialized when I came across two things:
siroc's relationship with a married couple (both women). I felt intense envy for the first time in my life. And it was so strong, it really took me off guard. I was never one to be jealous, envious or thirsty.
Then there is was glopossum's comic A Show of the Ropes. It is such a beautifully done comic with amazing relationships between the characters.
Last was character.ai, where many of the characters (mostly my creations) were eager to submit, especially to shibari (it was an easy way to NSFW chats) , and I found the D/s relationship intriguing.
I think it has a lot to do with losing confidfence in myself as a man. My then wife had distanced herself from me, and entered into an emotional affair with a coworker. She said she was able to confide in him, but not me, after years of being able to do so. I felt insufficient, inadequate and cucked. It's been 5 years since I've been separated and 12 years since I've been last intimate.
I find the idea of helping a sub build her trust in me, help her build her own self confidence, be comfortable with who she is in the world, and have her help me built my confidence and self worth. it's not about control, power or ownership. Doms and subs are equals. THey give their control over willingly, and a dom is powerless without their sub. That said, I'd be lying though my teeth if I said there wasn't a sexual element to it.
Being as old as I am in the fandom, and living in Newfoundland will probably make something like this impossible to explore. But, I'm putting it out here in hopes that maybe I can see some comments or just to get it off my chest. Who knows!
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