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~SirBoopySnoot
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Male, 32, Asexual, jaded :D
An arctic fox explorer of realities and imagination, will work for minimum wage.
Male, 32, Asexual, jaded :D
An arctic fox explorer of realities and imagination, will work for minimum wage.
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Comments Made: 165
Journals: 3
Recent Journal
Growing
a month ago
Perspective can be a difficult thing to accept. Once you gain a certain level of objectivity, it's hard to take it back. Old excuses fall flat and views on people you used to admire can turn sour.
It certainly applies with the self, of course. I spent a long time thinking of BF/ABDL as utterly harmless, followed by a good few years thinking I was a terrible person for even wanting to wear padding.
Ultimately, these states were always just... reactions. While everyone else was either happy or angry, I seemed to follow their thought patterns; I guess because I didn't want to become anyone's target. The problem was, this eventually led to a bunch of lynch mobs fighting to be heard inside my head - and each one of them wanted my neck.
Some outside perspective, both from non-furs and 'regular' furs (so to speak ;) ), helped me realise it all comes down to a few key rules:
- Don't accept something you're completely uncomfortable with just because you don't want to risk offending someone close to you
- Don't love the idea of someone that they create for themselves online - fursonas don't face consequences, humans do
- Don't be afraid to explore and love yourself for who you are - but protect yourself as you go
- Life won't wait for you to get help, but real friends won't hesitate to support you
I don't really consider myself a good person - more a person who tries to be good. I'm still trying to find the courage to live my life the way I want to, but I'm making efforts each day that've already paid off in spades. I'm sketching a great deal more, writing a great deal more, and am getting buff to the extent that I can feel it even while sitting down o3o/
I'm growing. Anybody can grow. But you'll never grow by living in a bubble, especially when you only surround yourself with people who'd do or say anything to keep it from bursting.
Now that that's out of the way, go buy some Japanese plushies o3o They are the SQUISHIEST things in existence and that country makes plushies of EVERYTHING. Seriously, I nearly had to buy a second suitcase when I visited Japan >W< I wanted ALL of them.
It certainly applies with the self, of course. I spent a long time thinking of BF/ABDL as utterly harmless, followed by a good few years thinking I was a terrible person for even wanting to wear padding.
Ultimately, these states were always just... reactions. While everyone else was either happy or angry, I seemed to follow their thought patterns; I guess because I didn't want to become anyone's target. The problem was, this eventually led to a bunch of lynch mobs fighting to be heard inside my head - and each one of them wanted my neck.
Some outside perspective, both from non-furs and 'regular' furs (so to speak ;) ), helped me realise it all comes down to a few key rules:
- Don't accept something you're completely uncomfortable with just because you don't want to risk offending someone close to you
- Don't love the idea of someone that they create for themselves online - fursonas don't face consequences, humans do
- Don't be afraid to explore and love yourself for who you are - but protect yourself as you go
- Life won't wait for you to get help, but real friends won't hesitate to support you
I don't really consider myself a good person - more a person who tries to be good. I'm still trying to find the courage to live my life the way I want to, but I'm making efforts each day that've already paid off in spades. I'm sketching a great deal more, writing a great deal more, and am getting buff to the extent that I can feel it even while sitting down o3o/
I'm growing. Anybody can grow. But you'll never grow by living in a bubble, especially when you only surround yourself with people who'd do or say anything to keep it from bursting.
Now that that's out of the way, go buy some Japanese plushies o3o They are the SQUISHIEST things in existence and that country makes plushies of EVERYTHING. Seriously, I nearly had to buy a second suitcase when I visited Japan >W< I wanted ALL of them.
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