People really have to get a hold of their insecurities.
9 months ago
OK.
Just to make sure.
Fur Affinity HAS a communication system, Right?
I have been here for 3 years now and over the years I've been blocked by a number of users.
They all had their own reasons.
One was just a troll.
One was just a dipshit.
Two were just REALLY insecure.
And a couple of good artists that were also very insecure.
I ain't even gonna talk about the troll since they're not important.
But the dipshit was another story.
At first, I thought they were a good artist, Commissions and YCHs here and there, Pretty decent.
Until one day when I was gonna fav one of their pieces, It said I was blocked. I thought maybe it was a mistake, I certainly didn't comment anything hurtful, So I decided to contact them through other media. To which the mods decided to SUSPEND ME for a week. Apparently the artist reported me for "Harassment".
Turns out that the "Artist" was actually a greedy parasite who blocks every watcher who doesn't buy or commission anything.
But I digress.
What I really want to talk about is people who can't handle their own insecurities.
The first two started with one artist who kept insulting their watchers, Saying we don't care about them.
Now, This could be easily fixed with commenting positive responses to them.
But they disable the comments on every submission and journal!
So they're just trauma dumping without letting anyone help out!
Finally, I noticed that one submission still had the comments enabled, So I decided to talk to them about it.
To of which they decided to block me.
I thought to myself "Alright, Someone who just wants attention and no help, I'll just let them be." and blocked them.
Turns out they even got raided on their birthday because of all this arrogant behavior.
I kept seeing their friends advertising their stuff, Wondering why would people raid someone on their birthday, They obviously didn't know the true color of their friend.
I decided to Note one and tell them the reason behind all the raids and their friends behavior.
To of which they antagonized me saying I'm a troll as well and their pure-as-snow friend would never do something like that.
Needless to say, They blocked me.
Now, The other artists that have blocked me had a "semi-good" reason for blocking me.
I tend to comment jokes on pieces that have a humorous imagery.
Guy was pulling on his testicles too hard, I comment "Well that's one way to get neutered. xD".
Now, Obviously that joke can be taken the wrong way, Which is the exact way one of these artists took it.
I got blocked without a single word.
The other artist just didn't like the way I talked. (Blocked from both of their accounts)
Which was already a big surprise to me.
Nobody talks the same in here!
People compliment pieces, They make jokes, They make more commissions, They roleplay, They do whatever they want!
I've seen PLENTY of artists and their comments are filled with all kinds of people, Nobody talks the same.
Now, I know that my way of commenting is usually in a friendly manner, Maybe a little TOO friendly sometimes.
But that's only because I've never seen anyone here comment any other way.
Nobody starts their comments like "Hello, My name is [Name], I would like to compliment your artwork as well as make a joke.".
People just drop whatever's on their mind, That's how COMMENTS work.
Now, Obviously, If you get a comment that you don't like, You can just TALK to the person who commented it instead of instantly blocking them, Rendering them unable to apologize and fav the pieces of their favorite artists.
Fur Affinity has Comments, Shouts and private Notes!
You can just TALK about it!
Bad joke?
"Hey buddy, I don't appreciate this kind of stuff, Stop it or I'll block you."
-"Oh, My bad! I am so sorry! Didn't mean to offend you! I was just joking around."
PROBLEM SOLVED.
Harsh life?
DON'T DISABLE THE COMMENTS so you can get the comfort that you need!
PROBLEM SOLVED.
Friend getting raided for some Unknown reason?
Talk to them.
PROBLEM SOLVED.
Weird comments?
"Hey bud, I don't like the way you talk, It's making me uncomfortable."
-"Oh, Sorry, That's how I always talk, Didn't mean to weird you out, I'll try to change my tone a bit."
PROBLEM SOLVED.
You see? It's all an easy fix!
Just TALK!
Communication can fix all these problems!
I still have not changed my tone when I comment (It's not like those artists told me what kind of tone was better.) and I managed to make friends with a lot of artists and users here!
They don't take the jokes personally, They just laugh.
When they're feeling down, We cheer them up.
We praise their artwork and they love it!
Not everyone is trying to attack you! You don't have to be closed about everything!
Give people a chance before taking away the things they really liked.
What do you have to lose? The worst you're gonna get is a mean comment!
All you have to do is stay strong, Talk about your insecurities instead of hiding them.
People here are still people just like you!
They can understand you when you talk, They can be friends with you!
Hell, The artists I've made friends with are kind enough to draw me gifts!
We laugh at each other, Mess with each other, Comfort each other, Just like people.
Chances are, If you completely empty your blocklist right now, You might get a bunch of "Thanks You"s later.
That is all.
I hope you have a good day.
Just to make sure.
Fur Affinity HAS a communication system, Right?
I have been here for 3 years now and over the years I've been blocked by a number of users.
They all had their own reasons.
One was just a troll.
One was just a dipshit.
Two were just REALLY insecure.
And a couple of good artists that were also very insecure.
I ain't even gonna talk about the troll since they're not important.
But the dipshit was another story.
At first, I thought they were a good artist, Commissions and YCHs here and there, Pretty decent.
Until one day when I was gonna fav one of their pieces, It said I was blocked. I thought maybe it was a mistake, I certainly didn't comment anything hurtful, So I decided to contact them through other media. To which the mods decided to SUSPEND ME for a week. Apparently the artist reported me for "Harassment".
Turns out that the "Artist" was actually a greedy parasite who blocks every watcher who doesn't buy or commission anything.
But I digress.
What I really want to talk about is people who can't handle their own insecurities.
The first two started with one artist who kept insulting their watchers, Saying we don't care about them.
Now, This could be easily fixed with commenting positive responses to them.
But they disable the comments on every submission and journal!
So they're just trauma dumping without letting anyone help out!
Finally, I noticed that one submission still had the comments enabled, So I decided to talk to them about it.
To of which they decided to block me.
I thought to myself "Alright, Someone who just wants attention and no help, I'll just let them be." and blocked them.
Turns out they even got raided on their birthday because of all this arrogant behavior.
I kept seeing their friends advertising their stuff, Wondering why would people raid someone on their birthday, They obviously didn't know the true color of their friend.
I decided to Note one and tell them the reason behind all the raids and their friends behavior.
To of which they antagonized me saying I'm a troll as well and their pure-as-snow friend would never do something like that.
Needless to say, They blocked me.
Now, The other artists that have blocked me had a "semi-good" reason for blocking me.
I tend to comment jokes on pieces that have a humorous imagery.
Guy was pulling on his testicles too hard, I comment "Well that's one way to get neutered. xD".
Now, Obviously that joke can be taken the wrong way, Which is the exact way one of these artists took it.
I got blocked without a single word.
The other artist just didn't like the way I talked. (Blocked from both of their accounts)
Which was already a big surprise to me.
Nobody talks the same in here!
People compliment pieces, They make jokes, They make more commissions, They roleplay, They do whatever they want!
I've seen PLENTY of artists and their comments are filled with all kinds of people, Nobody talks the same.
Now, I know that my way of commenting is usually in a friendly manner, Maybe a little TOO friendly sometimes.
But that's only because I've never seen anyone here comment any other way.
Nobody starts their comments like "Hello, My name is [Name], I would like to compliment your artwork as well as make a joke.".
People just drop whatever's on their mind, That's how COMMENTS work.
Now, Obviously, If you get a comment that you don't like, You can just TALK to the person who commented it instead of instantly blocking them, Rendering them unable to apologize and fav the pieces of their favorite artists.
Fur Affinity has Comments, Shouts and private Notes!
You can just TALK about it!
Bad joke?
"Hey buddy, I don't appreciate this kind of stuff, Stop it or I'll block you."
-"Oh, My bad! I am so sorry! Didn't mean to offend you! I was just joking around."
PROBLEM SOLVED.
Harsh life?
DON'T DISABLE THE COMMENTS so you can get the comfort that you need!
PROBLEM SOLVED.
Friend getting raided for some Unknown reason?
Talk to them.
PROBLEM SOLVED.
Weird comments?
"Hey bud, I don't like the way you talk, It's making me uncomfortable."
-"Oh, Sorry, That's how I always talk, Didn't mean to weird you out, I'll try to change my tone a bit."
PROBLEM SOLVED.
You see? It's all an easy fix!
Just TALK!
Communication can fix all these problems!
I still have not changed my tone when I comment (It's not like those artists told me what kind of tone was better.) and I managed to make friends with a lot of artists and users here!
They don't take the jokes personally, They just laugh.
When they're feeling down, We cheer them up.
We praise their artwork and they love it!
Not everyone is trying to attack you! You don't have to be closed about everything!
Give people a chance before taking away the things they really liked.
What do you have to lose? The worst you're gonna get is a mean comment!
All you have to do is stay strong, Talk about your insecurities instead of hiding them.
People here are still people just like you!
They can understand you when you talk, They can be friends with you!
Hell, The artists I've made friends with are kind enough to draw me gifts!
We laugh at each other, Mess with each other, Comfort each other, Just like people.
Chances are, If you completely empty your blocklist right now, You might get a bunch of "Thanks You"s later.
Which one do you prefer?
Blocking someone who really liked your stuff and made a mistake OR Making a new friend over a little joke that could've gone the wrong way
That is all.
I hope you have a good day.
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Сразу скажу
Я довольно плох в английском,поэтому я буду писать на своём родном языке
Я с тобой согласен
Порой люди просто не хотят обсудить что-то или кого-то
Не буду лицимерить,я и сам такой
Разница в том,что я осознаю то, что я поступаю не правильно
А вот многие из них думают,что они белые и пушистые
Так или иначе
Я рад что люди освещают эту проблему
Спасибо.
While I didn't try to watch them, I was commenting on an unrelated image, Then someone who I have never met before shows up saying "Nerdy talk like that is why I've blocked you."
That shit was more random than a dice. xD
But I can't wonder how things may turn out differently if people communicated instead of hitting the block button. Not that FA's block feature is really even all that good to begin with.
Well I read this journal last week but never had time to respond to it till now.
Just like me. xD
Oh well, I enjoyed this little chat, I feel really great when anyone responds to this journal, Really makes me think there's some people with hope left.
Same to you, My Notes are always open.
And I guess that blocking someone is related to something else as well other than being insecure. I'm extremely insecure myself and probably not a person who could be considered someone with hope in any capacity, but I wouldn't really want to block anyone instead of just trying to communicate or something of this sort.
It's just the same thing from earlier repeated probably, sorry. Welp, I wish you a good day then at least, lol.
I wish you good day as well.
But self harm extends to more than physical abuse.
I did get reprimanded once for commenting on the erotic nature of some really, deeply, truly intimate stuff, but as soon as the artist said please stop- I did. I apologized and said I would stop. It was so weird because their stuff is crazy erotic... You would think an erotic sentence or two would only add to it. But that's not how they saw it.
Never been banned though.
Lol, you must watch some unbalanced artists, lol. Or maybe you are like Charlie Brown at Halloween? Everywhere he goes, he gets a rock instead of candy. That's a joke now.
But seriously, people don't get the fact that something is funny when you write it. You have to be super careful because there is no tone, no facial expressions, just the words on the page- run into that all the time.
Then there are those that if you said, "Have a nice day" they would think in their heads, "He really wants me to let my guard down."
My God, what's wrong with people?
But seriously folks, there are some seriously broken people in the world of Fur- and many are artist. All we can do is try to tolerate them and hope their condition improves. You certainly can't fix them- I married that mistake. Never get in a relationship, physical or otherwise, with a broken person and expect them to improve. Never. No matter how much you love them, your love can't change them. You can help to heal them, but only they can decide to change.
"Doctor Anthony will return after these important commercial messages."
And thanks for the watch as well. ^w^
A little comment on the "Never get in a relationship" part, I'm married to a broken person as well. Several, Actually. (I'm polyamorous.)
But I myself am broken as well, So we help each other, Comfort each other when the time calls.
Sure, It's hard to open yourself up here and there, But when you do, It's just the most liberating feeling ever.
And I'm glad I put a ring on those nut jobs. <3
Anyway, Have a good day!
(And I do mean have a good day. xD)
Broken people have broken parents, and the cycle continues. We were not perfect, but the one thing I made sure of was to never be broken with our child. I sure hope that worked.
A true poly relationship, wow... What that must be like.
One way I realized that people can open up to each other, Is to set aside their fear for just one moment.
Act silly here and there, Be honest, Help them out and eventually, The person has nothing to fear and will let everything out.
Life is quite that simple. But that makes it feel to good to be true.
If it didn't work out, Well that's just fine. You stopped the dam completely, Yet you left it cracked.
People have all the choice and freedom to fix themselves and others, But fear that their own actions might make things worse. And nobody likes a guilt trip.
If you desire the warmth and love of another person, First you have to grab everything that's eating you up inside and throw it all out. But you can't grab anything if you don't reach in.
By the end of the day, It is all worth it.
Similar to a surgery. Painful, Very painful. But you'll walk out feeling much better.
And to "A true poly relationship, wow... What that must be like.",
Well... Four wedding rings were expensive. xD
I'll be honest, I block for a variety of reasons... some of them honestly reasonable and some of them I could probably work on...
Not so reasonable reasons I block? People being super friendly with people who hate me and want me dead. I could probably stand to talk to them but I don't want to start drama or seem like an issue and rock the boat. (I've known some pretty abusive people over the years)
Not so reasonable: eh, I could probably learn to not be so skittish, ye
Reasonable: I've seen some REALLY aggressive people and I have super bad anxiety so I block and avoid like the plague... I did this with one person (I saw them being really rude to an artist and we had never interacted but I blocked anyway) and they proceeded to search through my socials, find my email, and email me to cuss me out :c No bueno
I mostly block if I'm on someone's DNI list or I see them being really aggressive... otherwise, we probably have some sort of beef that I just want to be left alone
I hope that makes sense...
But nah, if someone is making jokes on my stuff, even if I don't understand, I try to roll with it because I understand that sometimes I just miss the joke, it goes over my head, and that's okay
That's exactly what I mean! xD
I still respect some of the artists that blocked me though, Like Freckles and sinsquared.
It was kinda my fault, One was uncomfortable with me sounding TOO friendly and the other took offence of a joke I didn't mean to be offensive.
But oh well, I'm sure they're nice people either way.
Like you! ^w^
Aww, that's good to respect despite being blocked, very mature of you.
Yeah, sometimes it's really hard to tell online when people are being friendly vs when they're being mean :c
Thank you ;o; You seem very friendly too, I appreciate that