Goodbye, Dennis. I love you.
18 days ago
I've been putting this off for a while now, but I need to let people know...
On April 20th, 2024, I said goodbye to my partner of 28 years, Dennis. A week earlier he'd had a massive heart attack that left his brain without oxygen for nearly 40 minutes. After a week in ICU and various scans, it was determined he was fully brain-dead. He wasn't coming back.
My housemate and I decided to let him go, as he wouldn't have wanted to be hooked up to machines for however long. We had him cremated and he was placed in an urn that is an actual working Herman Miller clock... he loved clocks, and he loved our home and sadly won't get to see the final remodeling done, but we plan on moving forward with that soon.
Words can not describe how scared and lost I'm feeling right now. He was my life, everything I did revolved around him, and even though we interacted a lot less in the last few years of his life (having different interests), there were still things we connected on - Disney, Legos, and until recently, various BDSM interests. But now that he's really gone, I feel like a leaf barely remaining attached to a tree with a violent wind blowing through, and eventually the leaf will break off and float aimlessly to the ground. And I have days when I really wish I was with him and not here any more, but I know that I have friends and family that love me very much and want me to stay longer, so I will do my best to ensure this.
So... goodbye, Dennis. I love you more than words can describe, and I will never forget you and will always cherish the good times we had together. Thank you for taking care of me these past 28 years. I miss you so much.
- Ken (Vaurien)
On April 20th, 2024, I said goodbye to my partner of 28 years, Dennis. A week earlier he'd had a massive heart attack that left his brain without oxygen for nearly 40 minutes. After a week in ICU and various scans, it was determined he was fully brain-dead. He wasn't coming back.
My housemate and I decided to let him go, as he wouldn't have wanted to be hooked up to machines for however long. We had him cremated and he was placed in an urn that is an actual working Herman Miller clock... he loved clocks, and he loved our home and sadly won't get to see the final remodeling done, but we plan on moving forward with that soon.
Words can not describe how scared and lost I'm feeling right now. He was my life, everything I did revolved around him, and even though we interacted a lot less in the last few years of his life (having different interests), there were still things we connected on - Disney, Legos, and until recently, various BDSM interests. But now that he's really gone, I feel like a leaf barely remaining attached to a tree with a violent wind blowing through, and eventually the leaf will break off and float aimlessly to the ground. And I have days when I really wish I was with him and not here any more, but I know that I have friends and family that love me very much and want me to stay longer, so I will do my best to ensure this.
So... goodbye, Dennis. I love you more than words can describe, and I will never forget you and will always cherish the good times we had together. Thank you for taking care of me these past 28 years. I miss you so much.
- Ken (Vaurien)
We’re all here for you.
Please take my condolences and I'm sending you hugs
I'll be around for you whenever you need me. Please take all the time you need to recover
I hope you will be able to recover from this...
*hugs*
I may not be a spiritual person, but I do believe he lives on through the people he was closest to. The memories, the influences, and the love he shared all continue on through people like you. And it shows; I had never met him in anything beyond a passing hello, but I know through you that he had a tremendous impact on you, and that the love you two shared together is something that I can only hope to keep with my own partner.
You're not alone. He may be gone but he is not forgotten, and we'll all be here for you too.
But I hope you'll be okay!